This episode of EBTV shares a clip from the May 28, 2011, live event in Toronto, Canada, featuring yogi, spiritual teacher, humanitarian and visionary Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev. In this clip, Sadhguru shares how to move beyond destructive family cycles, and free ourselves from difficult or toxic relationships with family members, instead of putting up with negative environments just because we are genetically related to certain people.
Please note that the audio is very poor on this video and for this reason, subtitles are provided. To access them, just turn on the subtitle feature on the video to better understand the whole message. The complete video transcript is also provided for you below this video.
Complete Video Transcript
“Don’t attach particular importance to those people who are genetically connected. You have no choice about who you are genetically connected with. It’s happened. It’s an event that has happened. You cannot fix it now. What kind of relationships you can maintain, maybe you have some choice, but not always. That’s why you choose friends, that’s why you get married, that’s why we told you, you should never marry within your blood relationship.
That’s called incest so that you have a choice. So that you can marry someone who is a little different from you, who feels a little different from you. It is not because of blood relations that you feel different. It is because your identification with the body is so strong.
You make blood more important than your intelligence. No, your intelligence should be your number one thing. When I say intelligence, don’t think of intelligence as just the logical process of the mind. Right now what’s happening in every cell in your body, what’s happening in a single molecule of DNA cannot be understood by any intellect. That’s how complex it is.
Tremendous things are happening. So there is an intelligence right across which is functioning every moment of your life, otherwise, you would not be alive. Whatever you decide to think, this inner intelligence is still carrying you on. Today, something happened, your love life fell apart or the stock market crashed your mind will say “I want to die”, but the intelligence within you keeps you going. Tomorrow, you might say “oh the life is great”, the intelligence within you keeps you going. If the intelligence took instructions from your intellect, by now you would have been dead 1000 times. So do not understand intelligence as just intellect, there is a deeper intelligence constantly functioning. To access that you will see that blood is just a superficial thing.
So one of the first things, if you distance yourself from the body, I want you to understand only because you are stuck with this body, somebody also has become important. If you are wearing your body too tight, then you do not know which is you and which is your body. Even if you wear it even a little bit loose, suddenly you know this is my body, this is not me. You don’t have to create too much distance, too much distance is called death. Don’t do that. Please don’t do that.
If you are free from this body, you will clearly know what is important to you now, the whole existence is just one energy. Religions of the world have been screaming for a long time, “God is everywhere”. Whether you say “God is everywhere” or “everything is one energy” are you talking about the same reality or different reality? Same reality. Everything is the same energy. This is science. God is everywhere. Same structure, expressed in a different way.
The only problem is, science did not experience it, he only mathematically deduced it. A religious person did not experience it, he just believes it. But if you know it by experience, everything will fall into its right place, otherwise, you will distort reality. Just because you’re born in the same family, just because you are born in the same house or home, you think something is happening…nothing. Two children can grow up in the same family and grow diversely different. It is happening every day. It is just that we are trying to hold by blood simply because our own attachment to our own body is too deep. If you understand the nature of what’s happening to this, very easily human beings can raise beyond genetics and operate in a different way. The whole living system is just about this.
He had no parents because he’s gone beyond his genetic process. Jesus said, “leave the dead to the dead”. What he is saying is, your father is dead. He’s saying don’t allow your father to live through you.
Dead should die. But right now your great-grandfather and your ancestors are also living through you, whether you are aware of it or not. You’re behaving like your great-great-grandfather, do you know this? You’re having the same genetics. If you don’t go beyond this, your life becomes cyclical, it does not progress. If you want your life to progress, the first thing that you need to do is you have to go beyond your genetics. Otherwise, genetics will keep you in a cycle, in a loop, you will become an endless cycle. Becoming cyclical is a helpless process, it’s a trap. Genetics gave you a body, a certain quality. That’s fine. Beyond that genetics should not influence you, you should go beyond that. Otherwise, your life will become cyclical.
So the first step in the spiritual process is the simple method to transcend the limitations of genetics. If you hold this body a little away from you, would your father influence you? No. You have made the body too important. So your forefathers have become too important. If you hold your own body aside, then all can go with it, you must leave the dead to the dead. Do not let them live through you. This is your life. This is for you to live, not for your grandfather to live through you.” ~ Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev