This article was written for Evolving Beings by guest Edie Weinstein.
As a nearly lifelong wordsmith, descriptions have always fascinated me since they provide valuable information that for a reader can make or break a story.
The Merriam Webster dictionary defines the following three words in this way
TRANSFORMING: to cause to change: as a : to change (a current) in potential (as from high voltage to low) or in type (as from alternating to direct) to cause (a cell) to undergo genetic transformation intransitive verb to become transformed
ORDINARY: the regular or customary condition or course of things —usually used in the phrase out of the ordinary
EXTRAORDINARY: going beyond what is usual, regular, or customary b: exceptional to a very marked extent
Being a colorfully creative writer, I much prefer these descriptions of the same words
TRANSFORMING: Abracadabra; presto-change-o; alchemical process that turns lead into gold
ORDINARY: Black and white and shades of gray; customary; day-to-day
EXTRAORDINARY: Ta-da! Highly exceptional and remarkable; amazing, fantastic, astonishing, marvelous, exceptional; Technicolor dream come true
Either way you look at, from the left brain, linear logical perspective, or the right brain, designer impression, you are aware that shift happens, change is inevitable, but struggling within that paradigm is optional.
Can you imagine a life in which nothing ever changes, where you don’t age or even mature, where every day is predictable and there are no surprises? There may be some among you who would see that as a relief, since you have often mused about how peaceful life could be if things would stay the same. If your babies could remain little and cute and portable, if you could count on something, other than death and taxes, if you might not look at your partner and wonder “Is this really the person I married? Why did he/she change?”, if you could refrain from mirror gazing without the intention of noticing wrinkles and sags. How boring would that be? As challenging as it might seem, I would sooner opt for that than bland, mundane sameness. A pivotal book from my childhood that I have likely read many dozens of times throughout my life is called A Wrinkle in Time. It was penned by the now deceased Madeleine L’Engle and a central concept is that “like and equal are not the same thing” and that excessive predictability in the guise of familiarity and pseudo comfortability can open the door to totalitarian control:
As the skipping rope hit the pavement, so did the ball. As the rope curved over the head of the jumping child, the child with the ball caught the ball. Down came the ropes. Down came the balls. Over and over again. Up. Down. All in rhythm. All identical. Like the houses. Like the paths. Like the flowers.
Taking A Leap of Faith One Extraordinary Moment At A Time
As I am writing this article, I am immersed in major life transformation, the likes of which I have never experienced. I can gaze backward in time and unravel the thread, winding it into a cat’s delight ball and play with it. Did the change begin in the 1970’s when I went to college and worked in a crisis intervention center that took me from the comfort zone of steady and secure suburban childhood into a rainbow colored, neo-hippie existence in which I counseled folks in upheaval, while experimenting with relationship choices that were out of my paradigm? It was there that I immersed in spiritual exploration as well, looking into Eastern traditions that were a distance from my Jewish upbringing. Perhaps it was part and parcel of attending personal growth workshops and seminars that had me stretching even further; reading books by Carlos Castaneda, Richard Bach and Dan Millman. I found myself being drawn in by the mystical and magical; having always enjoyed stories about Gods, Goddesses, elementals and nature spirits… I became a massage practitioner as well as a counselor, and then Social Worker. They set the stage for the ever more grand leaps of faith that were to follow.
In January of 1981, I embarked on a ten day Outward Bound Course out of Dartmouth College, that had me hiking, camping, climbing, cross country skiing and snowshoeing with a group of intrepid travelers that compelled me to stretch in myriad ways physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. A huge lesson that emerged along with my thawed out body after coming down from the Appalachian Trail was the concept of making a positive change. One of the instructors guided us with this wisdom: instead of complaining about what wasn’t working, we were to actively do something to remedy the concern. “If your socks are wet, change them. If you’re hot, take off a layer of clothes.” “If you’re cold, add a layer.” If you’re hungry, eat.” If you’re tired, sleep.” Simple as that.
When I returned home, a friend took a photo of me, sitting in ¾ profile, long auburn hair streaming down my flannel shirt clad back, to my waist. I was 22 at the time, young enough to be my own daughter, now. She and I have dialogues that I call: “Things I Wish I Knew When I Was You.”, during which we exchange wisdom. She reminds me of my wide eyed innocent way of viewing life and I encourage her to be bolder and more decisive. She had no clue what metamorphosis she would experience in the time it took the 22 year old to become the now 53 year old. She would meet and marry a man with whom she would begin a wellness oriented magazine that they would publish for ten years which would open the door to the amazing opportunity she would have to interview some of the most inspiring movers and shakers on the planet, they would adopt a child, survive Hurricane Andrew in Homestead, Florida, even if their house didn’t, he would be diagnosed with Hepatitis C and she would become his caregiver for 6 years. She would be widowed at age 40 and raise their 11 year old son solo, who is now 25. She would be ordained as an interfaith minister, continue her career as a journalist, and become an author and motivational speaker. She would evolve from a woman who was “an emotional contortionist who would bend over backward to please people” to an assertive and flexible opti-mystic who sees the world through the eyes of possibility. The death of her husband, as well as both of her parents who were her most ardent cheerleaders, would deepen her ability to connect with Spirit and help her appreciate the gift that our loved ones are, since she heard direct Divine guidance that “everyone is on loan to us.”
As much as she wishes it could have been easier, the truth is, had these experiences not occurred, the woman who is writing this article might not have existed and you would not be reading these words. The tapestry that we weave when we enter this life is the stuff that dreams and transformation are made of. Make yours extraordinary!
Change is the only inevitability, and that can be frightening or exhilarating. These days, I’m leaning toward exhilaration.
Edie Weinstein, The Bliss Mistress
About the Author
Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW (a.k.a. Bliss Mistress) is a colorfully creative career journalist and author, a dynamic and sought after motivational speaker, and inspiring BLISS coach, interfaith minister, licensed social worker and PR Goddess. Her ”first best seller” is
The Bliss Mistress Guide to Transforming the Ordinary into the Extraordinary. She writes for a growing number of venues including Beliefnet, VividLife, Wisdom Magazine, Elephant Journal, and now Evolving Beings. Visit Edie at