Lance left this comment on my previous article:

“ … I like to think that we are healing beings, even if we’re not always seeing that, just being open to it, and even if we don’t see that healing is taking place, perhaps it’s still happening, just not as we had pictured it.

I think it’s fair to surmise that everyone has experienced disappointment, and these moments can, if we let them, erode self-confidence and self-worth. The outcome is often never what we imagined it to be. Why?

I believe it’s because we can’t control the universe, the infinite presence of known objects and phenomena. The key here is known, or the perception of knowing. The outcome of an event is created, not forced. We can become the flow of synchronicity, the force, that creates, but we should never be the enforcer.

Let’s talk about cancer. Many of us believe cancer is an insidious disease, and, personally, the word terrifies me. What if my child was diagnosed with cancer and I was unable to heal her/him? This is the one moment I must control, because if I fail, I will lose my child.

Spirit, consciousness, reminds me all the time, ‘you’re not in control, my son.’

But I am, I have free will, and I chose that my child lives.’

Believing we have free will enforces the illusion that we’re in control. I’d suggest we have no will, or our will has been manipulated by everything that has preceded this moment. Fear has created this moment.

What are you afraid of, my son?

Of losing my child.’

But that’s not correct: I’m afraid of failing, I’m afraid of cancer, I’m afraid that it could’ve been me diagnosed with cancer. I won’t lose my child. No matter what the outcome, my child is eternal.

Consider this, we believe illness to be disharmonious to health, but if you’re a cancer cell then you’re in harmony — you’re cancer. We’re taught, and I believe, that fear is a restrictive vibration, but if you’re fear — you’re creative.

If I have no free will, then consciousness/God is my guide, and if consciousness/God is my guide, then I’m not in control. If that’s correct then I’m an observer, and I’ve the smallest role of all. I’m one of six billion souls, momentarily in a body, observing life. Everything is in harmony.

Imagine everyone, at precisely the same moment, pausing, inhaling, observing the world, and knowing that everything is in harmony. There’d be no need to fire another bullet, or to continue to be angry, and cancer would be peaceful in the silence. If everything is in harmony then there’s nothing for us to do, but observe. When I’m healing, I’m that moment. I see you, and I see myself.

Here are some exercises to do, to become an observer, and to help you connect with spirit/consciousness.

  • Imagine you’re standing naked in front of a mirror. Write a list of observations that are true:

    I have brown eyes (true), I have a tattoo (true), I have fat thighs — this is not true, this is perception and judgement. This list is the easy one.

  • Write a second list of the things you like or dislike about yourself:

    I like my brown eyes, I like my tattoo, I hate my fat thighs — this is not true. My fat thighs remind that I’m getting old (better, but still not true). Every time I look at my fat thighs I feel lazy (almost, but still not true). I’ve stopped enjoying life. I used to swim and ride a bike, and I loved cooking healthy meals. I miss that. I like my thighs, I have my dad’s legs and I love him. I miss my dad (bingo!).

  • This is the tough list. Think about the people in your life, and write a list, how do I feel?

    Consciousness sees what is, and not what is perceived. This list has questions and a conversation. I love my dog. ‘I know.’ I love my son. ‘Do you?’ He frustrates me. ‘Why?’ I don’t know. ‘Yes you do.’ Oh … I hate my mum. ‘No you don’t.’ I do! ‘Why?’ I don’t know anymore. ‘Yes you do.’ She’s an alcoholic. ‘I know.’ She hurt me. ‘I know.’ I don’t know how to forgive her. ‘I know.’ I don’t hate her. ‘I know.’ I hate myself because I don’t know how to fix it (bingo!). ‘I know.’

I’ve learnt that most things aren’t how we imagine them to be. When clients come to see me I look into their eyes and tell them, ‘right now, in this moment, you’re beautiful, perfect, and I love you.’

For a brief moment, they’re still, and they believe me. Then they start to think, ‘that’s not true, I’m seeing a healer, there’s something wrong with me.’ In that moment of stillness, ‘no there’s not.’

That moment is a window of opportunity for change. We can create that moment for the world. Stand still, take a breath, and see.

‘Right now, in this moment, you’re beautiful, perfect, and I love you.’