Billboard pin-ups, plastic surgery reality shows, visual effects artists hired to composite-in deceiving photoshopped/composited tummy tucks, breast enlargements, and even butt shrinkage celebrity contracts are all too common in our society. The only reason I even know this is because of my husband’s original work experience seeing what goes on behind the scenes in film and tv, where as other women probably think that those women really look like that!

And then there’s Halloween packaged as the only time for a woman to ‘be really sexy’? When did sex sell out and how did the sacred empowerment of the divine “Ooh!” become the profane “Ahh!”?

The sacred feminine and the divine orgasm is so buried amidst ‘the cultural operating system’ of modern society (as Terence McKenna would call it) that women everywhere seem desperate at Halloween to finally feel free, sexy and feminine yet seem to have forgotten how to truly do this from their authentic self.

I’m all about freedom of expression, gorgeous curves, and inner-outer confidence, but when the expression of sexuality is sold out in only cookie-cutter maid/flight attendant/vampire costumes that would normally be reserved for Maxim or Playboy photoshoots or perhaps Hugh Hefner’s living room, I can’t help but be disappointed in the women we’ve allowed ourselves to be molded into. Do we really want to affirm and represent our sexiest selves, free-ist, most empowered selves as just those play models? Is that the best we can do when it comes to bringing out our inner goddess?

Watching local stag shops suddenly fill beyond capacity, walking by “So SEXY, It’s Scary!” posters and listening and talking to other women this Halloween, I was once again reminded that the divine feminine has been buried and the profane pinup girl has taken her place in our ‘ modern culture.’

Repression of the Divine Feminine

Over the course of October, from a Halloween Wolf Lodge holiday where even the Cub Den, (a room for little ones to play, paint and craft), had Cub Staff dressed in short-short skirts and tight-tight dresses, to local costume shop browsing where I had to ask the clerk if there were any costumes for Mom’s instead of singles? I really kept witnessing and hearing women all around me desperate to look “sexy” and then feeling the need to make their own different excuses for, as one girl huffed: “Finally getting to show my {stuff} and not worry about what anyone else thinks!”

As a woman myself attempting to be naturally confident and believing in the sacredness of the divine feminine, it was sad to see the repression of our natural god-given beauty come out in a backwards attempt to feel beautiful and attractive, sold by a sold-out society lost in ego, illusion and empty fantasies as to what is beautiful. Perhaps sadder still was the deceit that even the most revealing costumes hid behind, as one girlfriend said to another: “I thought it (the costume) was cute!” I couldn’t help but ask myself, was ‘cute’ really what she was looking for?

So when did we sell out? When did the natural, sacred divine feminine, the gift of every woman, sell out to the commercialized pinup, and when did this woman throwaway all of her curves, independence and liberation to the wanton desires of profane expectations of a lost society and a manipulated manhood? And talking to the men in my life, and hearing their seemingly honest appreciation for natural beauty, how successfully have most men truly fallen victim to the gimmicks of Photoshopped beauty and plastic-surgery barbie dolls and how much have women been given a farce as to this truth to heat-up empty shopping sprees and costume blowouts?

In fact, with November here, I want to challenge every women to: Sex Beyond Halloween! Let’s all do this together, stand united in our natural beauty (tall, short, curvy, straight, every shape and divine feminine size) and know and express our beauty AUTHENTICALLY. Imagine that? Divine feminine beauty everywhere. How exciting! How beautiful! How revolutionary! And what would this truly look like? (I don’t think it would be the same as those boring maid outfits or limiting fishnet stockings — aren’t we getting bored with that?).

Bringing the Sex Back into SEXY

Let’s finally decide to throw out the ‘whore’ they’ve tried to replace us with, and bring back the Divine Goddess that lives and breathes within each and every one of us! Now, that’s way beyond ‘cute’, that’s loving you, loving sex and loving L.I.F.E! (Love, Intention, Feeling and Energy) :)

And to help us do this, I ask of myself, and every other lady out there, to keep passing this message along. A universal message to help bring the sexy back into sex, through personal adornment through love, not some gimmick or faked ‘beauty’ they’ve tried to sell us all, but the real deal, bold, beautiful and unstoppable! If we’re going to impress anyone, let’s start by loving and impressing ourselves and then extending that energy onwards and out by being AUTHENTIC sexy, confident and fun-loving beings living in our truth (not the media’s portrayal of what that should be!)

Remember, women, how you represent (or re-present) yourself assists you in attracting that representation into your life. So, next time you think of going for the plastic-wrapped maid costume, ask yourself:

Is this the kind of sexy woman I really want to be?

Is this the best I can do while stepping into my natural, sacred, feminine power?

Your Action Steps

  1. Each and every morning, I challenge you to begin your own goddess ritual with a gorgeous sacred bath, blessing your life, your energy, and the world-at-large, and then getting ready for the day by adorning yourself with love, truth and authenticity, in whatever colours, textures, jewels and clothing that really is the truest reflection of the most sexiest, best you!

  2. Consider throwing away any magazine, commercial or Entertainment Tonight’s Hit or ‘Hit or Miss’ fashion report on what you’re ‘supposed to be’ looking like, and just start looking like radiant YOU! Wow. Imagine that?

  3. Let’s share this message of true beauty with every women we know and love! Post a link via Facebook, Twitter or any other way you share your life.

I believe the more we share and hear from each other, the more we’ll see that what they’ve been telling us really holds us back more than lifts us up. So please, every reader and viewer out there, tell me what you think, and even better send this out to other women in your life, let’s share and change this together!

Let’s make natural, authentic beauty VIRAL!